Well this just came up ……
Be careful of energy suckers. Many people suffer from chronic fatigue and in a society where its all go, go, go … it is understandable that some people feel like they cannot cope with the pressures and are tired or feel depressed.
Isn’t it wonderful when you do find “that person” that makes you buzzy all over, which lifts your spirit and makes you shine instead of draining it all out of you.
Have you ever been in a situation where you are in a room with a person or spend 5 minutes in their presence and feel totally drained after having a conversation with them. I call them “energy suckers” and believe me, they come in all shapes and sizes.
There are several types of energy suckers …. some will always look for sympathy, some want to be the center of attention or some are total drama queens who love intrigues and live in total extremes of emotion.
You will know when you are facing an energy sucker but one thing is for sure, you’re allowed to walk away. Many of us find this really hard to do. We’re afraid of being thought of as impolite, we don’t want to offend people. But there are plenty of ways to remove yourself from a killing conversation. When leaving isn’t an option, you can still maintain your energy level by making a few minor adjustments.
You could have physical reactions to being in the presence of an energy sucker i.e. throat closing up, chest feeling constricted, heavy breathing or you feel like every ounce of your being just wants to run away from that person ….. and fast! You are having a severe fight or flight reaction.
If it is your partner, work colleague, friend – over time, this feeling can cause anxiety, depression, confusion as you try and process what is happening to you.
What to do:
Breath – if you find yourself tense up, take a deep breath, think of a happy memory or place and let the tension drift away.
Leave – it is OK to walk away and find a more peaceful, happy place.
Find joy – do something you love doing. Dance to your favourite song, go for a walk on the beach and just ground yourself, go for a run, play a music instrument.
Pay attention to people who drain you, set boundaries for yourself and stick to them. Pay attention to how you feel when with people. In the process of self-discovery, you might find there are some issues which you need to address. Work through it and find your flow.
Nat B x